“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
― Maya Angelou
I’m a great admirer of Maya Angelou. For me this quote is one of her most inspiring. Everyone will have their own interpretation of it. This one is my own. I would love to hear other people’s views.
People often choose not to accept reality when it doesn’t agree with their image of someone, especially someone they are drawn to. They prefer to hang on to their idealistic view, even when the other person shows them otherwise. So time and time again they ignore what they see and get hurt. The art of self-deception can be so strong that people simply turn a blind eye. They manage to convince themselves (not once but many times) that their sugar-coated version of the other person is the one to believe in and that time will prove them right. Do you know of anyone who does this? If it’s you then you may be reluctant or even unable to recognise it.
If you do recognise it then the next question is: what can you do about it? Well it depends on what you want to do about it. You may want to do nothing. If so that is your choice. However if you are unhappy then maybe it’s time to take stock and look at what you can do to help yourself. Who is causing you this unhappiness? Is it the other person? Well no not really because you can’t exactly blame them for being who they are. The only person who can make a difference in this situation is you. And it’s up to you whether you choose to do anything about it or not.
Counselling can help but only if you really want to find the answers and you’re willing to make changes. The decision is yours. It’s your life. Make it a good one.
Jane Hipkiss Counselling – Darlington